Her: I can’t believe I let all that go. I miss him but I feel like I’m just being strung along.
Me: How does he make you feel outside of sex?
Her: Idk… wanted?
Me: Okay what else?
Her: Sexy. I mean idk… i don’t know how to articulate my feelings.
Me: *Still being optimistic* Okay I’ll help you. Does he make you feel loved? Special? Inspired? Does he make you want to be a better woman? Does he make you laugh? Smile? Calm on your most turbulent days?
Her: Well no.
Me: Then he’s not the one and you already knew that. Going deeper you don’t even want him. You’re just bored or extremely anxious. Maybe even lonely and you just need something to tie you over until the one makes himself known.
Maybe it’s time we all boycott those people who can have sex with us but won’t date or better yet commit to us. People go through too many changes when they’re not honest with themselves about what they want and what all they can handle.
There’s a saying “know your status” and you should most definitely, but you should also know your status in that person’s life. Knowing your role can make your life a lot easier.