No matter how much a person’s antics bother you never I repeat NEVER let them know it phased you…not even a little bit. It’s not about playing games or putting on a front it’s about privilege and not letting someone who will only waste the energy you invest have power over you. Dear smart girl, never let em see you sweat. Only a few deserve to see you when you’re down and that’s bc only a few will actually try and preserve you. Others don’t give a 🙊and will leave you out there to suffer. Not everything and every emotion deserves to be acknowledged. Work through it silently and with much grace.
So here’s the thing. When someone tells you “oh you’re such a great person” or “I think you’re really great don’t ever change” etc; They probably mean it… or maybe not. If you really are a great person then they do mean it. HOWEVER, there is an unspoken B-clause to that statement. What people fail to say is the WHOLE, UNADULTERATED, UGLY truth. When someone hits you with “You’re a really great person” they really mean “You’re a really great person BUT there’s someone else I think is an even greater person and I don’t want you. You’re still great though just not as great as that person”. Lol. It really does suck once you dissect the stuff people feed you and get to the heart of what was said. I don’t know what is going on with me but my bs detector has upgraded over the last year. I haven’t heard this line in a while but every now and then you start replaying old conversations and the revelations just start to hit you. For me, that is one of the worst things you can say to me. I absolutely HATE when someone tells me how great I am. Clearly I can’t be that great because if I was then… well you get the rest. Let’s keep unsaid truths where they’re at. But don’t compliment me on how wonderful and great I am if you’re not going to treat me as such. I’d much rather you tell me all you dislike about me. That way it will make sense as to why you’re so into an even greater person. Now I can hear you saying “Well maybe you are great just not great for them… NO Screw that. That’s even more bs. It could be true but all it is is a valid excuse for them not telling the WHOLE truth. We’re taught to seize and make the most of every great opportunity we come across no?